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First Date Questions

• Have you ever been here (the restaurant or other setting the two of you are in) before? (Discuss aspects of the facility such as food, amenities, and so forth.
  
  
• Do you live in (name of town or city)? How long have you lived in the area? How do you like it here? (This can lead into a discussion of area politics and other local issues.)
  
  
• Have you visited the local (park, library, shopping center)? (Talk about the special attractions of your town.)
  
  
• Did you grow up here? (If not), Where did you live before this? What was it like there? How does this area compare with that one?
  
  
• Does the rest of your family live nearby? (Parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles?)
  
  
• What do you like most about the area?
  
  
• What kind of movies do you like? What is the worst movie you ever saw? Who is your favorite actor/actress?
  
  
• What is your favorite TV show? What is your least favorite?
  
  
• Did you catch the academy awards, (or that new show, or the game, etc.) last night?
  
  
• What kind of music do you enjoy? Who is your favorite performer/group/band? Who do you think is the hottest this year? Do you think they still will be next year?
  
  
• What is your favorite type of reading matter? Who is your favorite author? What's the best book you've read recently? Do you subscribe to magazines?
  
  
• Do you belong to any local clubs or organizations?
  
  
• Are you a morning person, or do you find yourself at your peak later in the day? (For young people): What kind of career are you interested in? Or, "What are your career goals?"
  
  
• What do you like to do in your spare time? Hobbies, interests...? How did you get involved in your hobby? What do you like most about it?

This isn't nearly everything you and your date can talk about, of course. If you're young, school is an excellent subject for conversation, and can provide an endless supply of topics (a list of questions for students will be added to this site soon). If your date is employed, work can be a good source for conversation. Here are some additional tips for keeping the conversation going:

Discuss events in the news

Maybe the other person isn't real up on current events. But there's an easy way to find out. When the other person says something that reminds you of something you read or heard on the news, use this natural tie-in and see if it gets a good reaction: (Speaking of politics, did you hear about the new crime bill they're trying to put into law? If the other person isn't up on current events, he or she may really be into celebrity news or pop culture. So, study up a bit on feature articles in newspapers and magazines before you go on the next date.

Talk about the situation that brought you together

The friend who introduced you or the place where the two of you met is a perfectly natural topic of conversation.

Talk about the present situation.

That salad looks delicious. What's in it?

Look at all the bicyclists out today! Do you enjoy riding yourself?

I'm really looking forward to that movie tonight. Have you caught any of Arnold Schwarzenegger's previous films?

Raise hypothetical questions

These are the old standbys:

"If you had to spend a month in the hospital, what famous person would you most like to share the same room with, and why?"

If you knew you would be stranded on a desert island, for a year, what three books would you bring with you?

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